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Large open-ended inquiries are normally great with strangers, although they are occasionally unanswerable. “So, tell me your tale.”
Uh… I’m not sure. “What exactly do you mean?”
The first internal response a person has in this situation is desire. Everybody wishes to be understood. The second, though, is dread. People are terrified of being evaluated and of not being able to express themselves clearly. That is typical.
Our objective is not always to obtain information, but to maintain desire while decreasing fear. We do this by removing the question and going in a different route.
“I’m just curious about you. You appear to be intriguing. But, yes, that is an unanswerable question. By the way, I like your shoes. They appear to be quick and exciting to me. I’m thinking you had a fast 5K time.”
”Ha. No. These are only for strolling about.”
”Oh. Yeah. I got you. I’ve heard that walking is the new black. I’m not sure how you feel about it, but my favorite thing to do in the morning is wander around this neighborhood with my coffee.”
”Yeah. That’s not too awful. is it?”
”Nope.”
Pause…
“So, if you don’t mind my asking, what are you doing for the remainder of the day?”
Because this is a nosy inquiry, we use the modifier. We demonstrate that we are self-aware enough to recognize that we are being nosy. Again, it’s not so much about how the other person responds to the inquiry as it is about cultivating a desire to be understood while decreasing the anxiety that is inherently there.
“I simply have a job interview in an hour.”
“Oh wow. That’s fantastic. “I believe you’re going to get it.”
“How come?”
“You’re attractive. Professional studies have shown that the individual with the best appearance nearly usually gets recruited. I’m not suggesting you’re not qualified. I’m certain you are. Perhaps I should leave you alone so you can concentrate.”
“It’s OK. “I believe I am as prepared as I can be.”
“Well, in that case, mind if I join you and you tell me everything intriguing about yourself?”
Returning to a version of the original query.
”Sure.”
In that case, a few conversational methods are overlaid. However, the overarching theme here is that individuals want to be understood. That is an expression of desire. And our role is to instill desire while reducing fear. When I initially start working with a client, the first thing we talk about is how every action we make with individuals causes both desire and anxiety. Being effective in communication does not imply never instilling fear. We will never accomplish anything if we adopt that mindset. Instead, it is about comprehending the dread we produce and employing additional strategies to minimize it while maintaining the desire.
If you want to learn more, sign up for phone coaching, come to one of my events, or simply read on.
Best wishes,
Wayne
Structure of a Simple Story
Mr. Wayne Elise
I was speaking with a satisfied client today. He’s in a relationship with a lovely girl who’s ‘out of his league’.
When I asked him where he plans to take his conversational skills next, he said he’s been focused on groups. He has, indeed, emerged as a leader.
That’s great. However, he said that he difficulties with narrative. He is perplexed and unsure where to take this story.
This is a rather typical issue. The main cause for this is a lack of experience with conversational tale formats. I provided him some pointers that I thought were worth re-posting here.
Before and After tales account approximately 80% of all conversational stories. It’s definitely the simplest framework to grasp and, in my view, the most enjoyable to utilize.
There are three sections:
first impression
Dialogue or action
Feelings have shifted.
That’s all.
I told him this hypothetical tale as an example of something he might connect to because he worked in a mental health facility:
“I was feeling depressed today when I walked into work. I’ve been wondering lately if my life was going somewhere. If it had any significance.”
But then this guy, a patient waves me over and gives me a flower he’d taken from the physicians’ garden and he says, ‘Hope this isn’t odd but I just wanted to say it’s been real beneficial talking to you. This is all I have to say thank you. But perhaps that will enough.”
“I was taken aback. This was not anything I expected. I presented him with my innovative 12 Finger Handshake TM. It seemed like the stars aligned perfectly. “I grinned the entire day and felt like I was on a high.”
The conclusion.
Often, the final sensation is the polar opposite of the first feeling.
As though a coin were being flipped.
Of course, the objective is not to invent stories that did not occur. This is only a hypothetical narrative. But it is to comprehend the framework and begin to consider what happens to us in terms of, ‘How would I tell a tale about what occurred to me?’
For brief conversational conversations, the Before and After story pattern is ideal.
Another tip: Pay attention to how you feel about the things that happen to you every day. It is the sentiments of the primary character, which is you, and how those feelings evolve over time, that provide the foundation for empathy and rapport from your audience, as well as make your tale intriguing.
Best wishes,
Wayne
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Cubes
Mr. Wayne Elise
The Conversation Camp in London last week had a unique twist. A customer and I hooked up with several individuals and ended up spending the most of the day together. The artist invited us to the exclusive club Shoreditch House, which is close to the Ace Hotel in London, where we operate the Conversation Camp. Shoreditch House was a lot of fun, and there’s no better place to meet interesting and handsome people than a private club.
However, before that, we were having fun and took some footage of me and the artist, Tamer Nakisci, juggling his paintings. I had recently purchased a new iPhone and was eager to test out the slow-motion video feature, so I ended up editing it all to music when I got home.
In any event, communication skills are fantastic for attaining what you desire, such as dates with attractive individuals and sales and business success. They’re also fantastic for chance encounters with strangers.
Here’s the article I wrote, complete with a video at the conclusion. Enjoy!
– Wayne
Cubes
This is a genuine tale of four strangers who met at a cafe.
The artist is seated close to the narrator. They are complete strangers.
“I have these cubes,” the artist adds, pulling out a colorful item. They are the foundation of our life.”
“Interesting,” the narrator remarks. “How about a ball?”
“Balls are fantastic, but they are literally planets apart. A ball cannot be stacked or used to form buildings like a cube.”
The narrator massaged his chin. “I never considered it in that light.”
The artist made a show of handing up the cube. “Are you willing to accept this gift?
“Yes. I’ll put it right here next to my cup and try to find it a decent home later.” So he took the cube, unaware that it would affect the course of the day.
“What’s that?” said the technologist when he showed up.
“A building block of creativity,” said the storyteller. “The cube is like any of the elements of a story. Think of it like a character, or an action shot or a reaction shot.”
“I see,” said the technologist. “I want to learn more about stories. The three sat together appreciating the cube.
“Its color is striking,” said the technologist.
“Yes,” said the artist. “I worked hard to get that just right. “It’s not quite orange which would make you think of fruit. And it’s not quite red which would make you think of fire engines and street lights. The color lies somewhere in between – not familiar, but not strange either.”
The technologist and the storyteller nodded their heads as if the artist had discovered something profound.
Just then a Marathon Runner showed up. She wore fast shoes and smiled easily.
“Is this table taken,” she said.
“Please,” said the artist, gesturing grandly for her to sit at the next table to the group.
“What is that?” she asked.
“Our technology is made up of discreet units,” said the technologist. “Your phone for instance, in your pocket is made up of cubes. There are cubes within cubes within cubes. This cubes represents all those cubes.”
“You’re right I’m sure,” she said. “But I don’t know what the cube means to me. Running a marathon is very circular with no sharp corners at all.”
“Ah yes,” said the artist.
“Good point,” said the storyteller.
“Oh well,” said the technologist.
They sat in quiet for a moment, each contemplating the meaning of this conversation.
“But,” said the Marathon Runner. “I like the color.”
Everyone smiled and agreed on that. The conversation ran on to other things and, in a short time, they became friends.
“What shall we do to keep the fun going?” asked the artist.
“Let’s go shoot some video of the cube outside on the street.”
“Yes,” said the artist. “That’s where the cube belongs – with the people.”
The storyteller did not know if the artist was joking. But they all went outside and filmed themselves playing with cubes.
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